My summer holiday is coming up (actually celebrating midsummer in Sweden today, Yay for national holidays) and things at work are slowing down some, at last. When your mind isn't filled with work and other stressful things it gives you (in this case me) time to think about things differently.
The latest subject on my mind has been needs. i came across Maslow's hierarchy of needs again the other day and it got me thinking. (If you have no idea what on earth i'm on about.. look
here ).
To me it seems alot of people have flipped the pyramid. Putting more focus on self- actualization then basic needs. At one point i did too, but i learned my lesson and life doesn't work too well that way. Its easy to tip the pyramid over if you take care of the "top" needs first. So how does this connect to D/s.. well when a Dom goes in and starts "controlling" their subs life.. What part do they go for first? Like everything else that depends on the Dom i'm sure.. but wouldn't it be more effective to go for the basics first? Sleep for example.. or Sex?
Where does your biggest needs fit in? What need is the most important after the basic ones?
My needs change over time.. but right now, right this minute i'd do anything for hug or ten.
I read this last night, and have had to think on this one a bit. So, now I'm back to respond. For me personally, as I look at the big picture, I start at the bottom. But, then I tend to skip to Love/Belonging and Esteem with some safety and security thrown in. I think everyone tends to see to their basic needs (phisiological) whether they view it that way or not.
ReplyDeleteAs a Dom, I assume the basic needs are taken care of. I always put safety of my sub first, and then we delve into love and sexual intimacy, mixed with esteem and actualization. Really so much of this is intertwined that it is hard to break it down into what you do. It always seems to be a mixture of all of this, whether it is me personally or in dealing with my submissive.
This was kind of tough to break down and look at. Thanks for making us think.
DV
Gives you something to think about doesn't it? :) i have my none blond moments *laughs*
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